Listen, Speak and Connect
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The Sound of Connection: Conversations
Have you ever thought about the power of your voice? Or how it transforms the world around you? The way you speak and listen can build stronger relationships and create meaningful moments. Communication is more than just words—it’s about how we use sound to connect with the world around us.
The Physics of Sound: Why It Matters
Sound is vibration (Rossing, 2007). Every word you speak carries energy that affects both the people who hear it and the environment around you. Most of us are familiar with the four elements—water, earth, air, and fire. However, in Hindu philosophy, there is a fifth element known as Ākāśa (ether), which is considered the medium through which sound travels (Taittiriya Upanishad, n.d.).
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Why is this important?
Your voice is your most powerful tool!
It can inspire, damage and shape how you and others experience the world.
Being mindful of how you use your voice is essential to becoming a better communicator. The speed, tone, and pauses in your speech shape the way your message is received. By controlling these elements, you can become more interesting and dynamic in conversations.
Speak with Intention
The way you speak influences how others perceive and understand you. Here are some ways to take control of your voice:
Pace Yourself – Speaking too fast can make your message hard to follow. Speaking too slowly you may lose your listener’s attention. Find a balance that keeps your audience interested.
Play with Tone – A monotone voice can sound lifeless. Changing your tone adds depth and emotion to your words. Experiment with highs and lows aloud to yourself before trying with others.
Use Pauses Wisely – Instead of filling gaps with “um” or “ah,” allow for moments of silence. Pauses give your audience time to feel your words.
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Understand over Respond
Listen to understand, not just reply (Headlee, 2015). When we only focus on what to say next, conversations become like a game of table tennis—words are exchanged, but real understanding is lost. Conversations work both ways—both listening and speaking matter. Otherwise, we might as well talk to a wall and save others some time.
Try at least one of these in your next conversation:
Give Your Full Attention – Avoid distractions. Put your phone away and focus on the speaker. Do not multitask.
Be Present – Don’t just act like you’re listening—truly pay attention. Absorb what is being said. Let go of the urge to plan your response while the other person is speaking.
Learn from Others – Every conversation is an opportunity to gain new insights (Gallo, 2014). Be open-minded and willing to see things from different perspectives.
Ask Better Questions
Thoughtful questions can lead to deeper discussions and build stronger relationships.
Think about the following:
Be Genuine – Ask questions out of sincere curiosity, not just to keep the conversation going.
Admit When You Don’t Know Something – There’s power in saying “I don’t know.” People appreciate honesty.
Respect Boundaries – Be curious and respectful. Adapt for cultures and social settings.
Conclusion: The Power of Meaningful Conversations
Conversations go beyond words—they shape relationships, inspire ideas and add richness to our lives. By paying better attention to how you listen, speak and ask questions, you can become a more impactful communicator. Control your voice, listen with intention and cultivate meaningful interactions.
Sources
Rossing, T. D. (2007). The science of sound. Pearson Education.
Taittiriya Upanishad (n.d.). In Sacred texts of Hinduism. Retrieved nd, from https://www.sacred-texts.com/hin/index.htm
Brownell, J. (2012). Listening: Attitudes, principles, and skills (5th ed.). Pearson.
Headlee, C. (2015, May). 10 ways to have a better conversation [Video]. TED. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R1vskiVDwl4
Gallo, C. (2014). Talk like TED: The 9 public-speaking secrets of the world's top minds. St. Martin’s Press.
